Taking the Leap into Adoption

 

 

 by Orchid Press

 

 

Many AIS women feel the pull towards motherhood, but when it comes time to begin the adoption process numerous questions come to mind.  Where do I begin my search?  What does the adoption process involve?  Are there local adoption agencies that I can turn to?

The first step you may want to consider is to search your state’s government website under the “health and family services” or “department of social services” section.  Go to Google, or another search engine, and type in “State of [type in the state in which you reside].”  Note: adding quotation marks around your search phrase will help narrow your search.  A listing for your state’s website should be the first item on the list. Click on the link.  Next, you should see links to various state departments or a search engine to search the state website (type in “Adoption in [the state in which you reside]” in the search engine for links to adoption resources).  Many states have a list of certified adoption agencies and forms to submit to the State to begin the adoption process. There should also be a phone number listed on the agency’s webpage that you could refer to in case you have specific questions about the requirements in your specific state of residence.  When discussing adoption procedures with your state agency, find out what kind of children are available, the costs involved, the waiting time, and any other questions that may come to mind.  If state adoption doesn't look too promising, then start looking for reputable adoption agencies.  A first step is to ask people who have adopted what agency they used.

Most foreign adoption agencies have decent reputations because the United States State Department keeps a close watch on them.  Frank Adoption Agency places lots of babies from Russia, the Ukraine and the countries surrounding that region of the world.  They have excellent resources in those countries.  Adopting families need to be sure to ask questions about drug/alcohol abuse with the birth mother in any country that they select.  Adoptive parents need to be firm, stating that they don't want to adopt an infant who had ANY exposure to drugs or alcohol.  For more information, visit Frank Adoption Agency at the following website: www.frankadopt.org.

There are several agencies in Texas that have good reputations, placing babies quickly and less expensively than going international.  Two excellent agencies are: Angel's Adoption in San Antonio and Adoption Alliance in San Antonio.  Websites follow:

www.angelsadoption.com
www.adoption-alliance.com

For more information on these two agencies, contact Agnes, a fellow member of AISSG-USA via e-mail at weowensit@yahoo.com.  Agnes has worked with these agencies in the past, and her extensive knowledge in adoption procedures is a wonderful resource to our group.

Finally, the following websites contain excellent information on adoption.

Adoptive Families.Com

www.adoptivefamilies.com/adoptionguide.php

This is a link to the magazine “Adoptive Families.”  Articles available on this website for free include “The Truth About Domestic Adoption,” “10 Steps to Adoption,” “The Reluctant Spouse,” and “Independent Adoption.”  The latter article covers some of the legal considerations in the adoption process. In addition, there are links to find an adoption attorney in your city, information on domestic and international adoption, adopting from foster care, and information on how to find an adoption event in your area, such as informational meetings on the adoption process in your state.

Adoption.Com

www.adoption.com

There are links for infant adoption, foster adoption, and international adoption.  Informational articles include “where do I start,” “all about visas” (international adoption), and “Adopting a Newborn in the United States.”
________________________

It goes without saying that motherhood is one of the biggest steps (if not the biggest step) you can take in life.  The rewards of adoption are endless, and in many ways completes the circle of life for an AIS woman.  Taking the time to research the intricacies of the adoption process, including the financial and emotional toll it can take on your life is very important.  We hope we have given you good tools to assist you. If you need further assistance or guidance, please feel free to contact us at aissgusa@hotmail.com.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Dear InterConnect Community

Image
    by Rebecca Baughman Kerns       As I sit here and reflect on the past two years, I’m so proud of the many milestones we achieved.  The in-person conference in Minneapolis was not only well-received but also a testament to the strength of our community.  Every time I turned around, I saw a new connection being made, a new memory being formed or a new friendship created.  The impulse to connect, as often as we can, is not to be overlooked.  Whether you have attended one conference or dozens, they are life changing.  Minnesota showcased many of the victories happening in our own community.  We had the chance to sit together and watch a documentary about our community, giving voice to our lives.  I hope everyone reading this has the opportunity to get together with others in the intersex community.  If you cannot make it to a meet-up, let us help you create one in your own area. Our monthly Zoom meetings have s...
Read more

Remembering InterConnect's Founder

Image
Sherri Groveman Morris On Monday, October 9, we learned of the passing of InterConnect ’s dear founder, Sherri Groveman Morris (1958-2023).  Sherri, an orchid legend, founded InterConnect in 1996 as the AISSG-US (Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome Support Group, US Chapter) and was also actively involved with the Intersex Society of North American (ISNA). At that time, InterConnect functioned as a small support group for women with AIS.  Over the last 27 years, InterConnect has grown into an organization that supports people with all intersex variations and gender identities, their families, friends, and allies.  Dr. Charmian Quigley, who knew Sherri from InterConnect 's founding, wrote this about Sherri:  "Passionate and compassionate, committed, courageous, dedicated, warm, honest, human, humorous, driven, bold, articulate, engaging, our surrogate mother and grandmother, the matriarch of our family tree; the architect of a support movement that has blossomed over...
Read more

ABA Supports Intersex Bodily Autonomy

Image
American Bar Association Resolution supports intersex bodily autonomy   Last week, the American Bar Association (ABA) adopted resolution 511 supporting the bodily autonomy of children with intersex traits. Within resolution 511, the ABA “urges licensed professionals not to conduct or propose medical or surgical intervention on minors with intersex traits until the minor requests the proposed care, understands the impact of the proposed care as well as alternatives, is provided with affirming psychosocial supports, and gives informed consent or assent, except when immediate life-threatening circumstances require emergency intervention.” We applaud the ABA in their support of intersex children to make their own informed choices regarding their medical care. Read more HERE .
Read more